Just stop forcing people into groups! And stop with group interviews! Their sole function is to make the hiring team’s job’s easier based off factors unrelated to the job. Social ability. I’ve never got a job through a group interview. The only way for introverts to shine is to get an answer right when no-one else knows, or shout louder. Introverts won’t often do the latter. In one-on-one interviews, introverts are better suited, but even then they have to wear a mask of confidence. We all do, after all. Group work is annoying as hell, and most of the time pointless. I’ve always been a better worker when left alone. When stuck in a group I can’t voice my opinions out of fear they might be stupid, nonsensical and needless. Deep thought works best alone, but that’s not to say group work should be avoided at all costs. Introversion, for me at school and sometimes these days, a curse on the worst days. I often wonder how my life would play out if I could engage in polite conversation and even pretend to care about somebody’s life. This all sounds deeply misanthropic, cold. Perhaps vitriolic. But, in truth I do care. I do care about other people, my work mates, friends and family. But it’s so unbelievably hard to say anything. It’s just easier, and safer, to keep quiet.
Since watching Susan Cain’s talk on introversion, images and flashbacks of school, college, university, job hunting and skirting the fringes of human existence have flooded my mind, and it’s incredible to think how far we’re moving (as a world) towards an extroverted plain. That’s not necessarily a bad thing, but worrying for those who really can’t cope with social interactions. For some people, the mere thought of a human encounter, a friendly gathering, or even going to work, is terrible. So terrible it’s actually painful. I want to live in a world where introverts are praised for their ideas, their thoughts and work ethics instead of made to feel guilty for living in the shadows and toiling away on their bright ideas. Just because we don’t want to go for a drink with our colleagues after work doesn’t mean we don’t like them, want to get to know them or see them. We’d love to get to know them, perhaps even build a stronger relationship or something more. We just don’t want to put ourselves in uncomfortable situations where we are on guard, our cards close to our chest with our eyes on the door.
Songs of the Week:
- 'Darling, Are You Gonna Leave Me?' by London Grammar
- 'Maybe' by London Grammar
- 'Help' by London Grammar
- 'Shyer' by London Grammar
- 'Strong' by London Grammar
- 'A Spartan Rises' by Halo 2 Anniversary Soundtrack
- 'So Far Away' by CMA (f. Wonder)
- 'Priscilla's Song' by The Witcher 3 Soundtrack
- 'The Fields of Ard Skellig' by The Witcher 3 Soundtrack
- 'Father's Day' by Frank Turner